Being Indian/Punjabi/Sikh, our families tend to be pretty large. thats the stereo type at least. My family isn’t that large, at least my immediate family isn’t. The difficult part is arranging get togethers. Each like pod of family live in a different city either 40mins, 30mins, or 8 hours away. So we have this rare occasion where my mom is off work and my aunt is in town. Great right?
Heres a cute background tale to shine some light on how close we all are –> I was born in a small town, Quesnel, and so were my cousins. We all lived in this HUGE house together and when my family of 4 moved out; we always visited in summers/winters. Randomly, I did grade 1 in Quesnel. So when we have events like Christmas, Halloween, Weddings, or mothers day, its like nostalgic all being together. Since i was little, I call my aunt and uncle – mom and dad. Also, why i love being with them on important events.
I am the greatest nerd for having everyone together. But my family is being so distant, so short tempered and confusing. It was so much easier having everyone in one house. Now, families have different families and its so confusing. Planning this mothers day is so difficult and at this point i don’t even know what i want! I would love it if we all could get together and have an outdoor activity. We always get dinner and just sit and eat… I find that so disconnected and impersonal.
These past couple years, I have realized how important family is to me and i don’t think my family knows how important they are? Or how important they should be. Theres some weird stuff happening in my family, like i don’t know what it is, i feel like its that quiet background noise that lingers and sooner or later it will implode. I just hope to be the rock for my family if that does happen.. But i hope it doesn’t.
My plan is to save enough money and plan a little trip in town with everyone. I feel like it would be marvellous.
Much love to my family.
and much love to you all for reading
Much Love: Amer.
Notice how I said good show? That’s what I think of 13 reasons why; I think it’s good, not amazing or horrible. Here are my 13 reason why i think its a good show:
- It started this HUGE wave of conversation. I have never noticed this much conversation about a show with suicide, rape and mental health.
- Schools discussed it; which led to open discussions on suicide and mental health within the school systems.
- It shows a fairly real portrayal of bullying, cyber bullying, peer pressure in high school
- It has scenes that are difficult to watch because those scenes are difficult. They are a very real scenes for people in real life and it shows people who have witnessed or experienced scenes like so or people who haven’t what is happening in someones life and what needs to be done.
- It’s a TV show and not a documentary or PSA. It’s made in a way that young kids will actually pay attention to it
- It shows so so many different POV’s. Not just Hannah’s or Clay’s. It takes on how people react to realizing what they did, and how they did not know how much it would affect a person.
- It shows how stupid idiotic errors can make someone feel depressed, hurt, lost.
- It brutally points out how horrible high school is and why people suffer when it’s always just considered “high school”, “it’s only four years”, “just ignore them”.
- It shows how unequipped high school staff is, the lack of supports for kids. When Hannah died, people mourned for her, people wondered why she did it. This show explains that side of it. Those tapes are for those questions, and it shows how people claimed they cared for her or miss her, did not know where she was coming from cause once again “it was just high school”. There was a scene in one of the episodes; where two girls took a selfie by Hannah’s locker,that was all decorated in memory of her, and one of them had asked “what the hashtag was”. That part really stuck with me and the featured picture. People want to create change, even i do! After watching the scene it was obviously SOOO fake, like I was repulsed by that scene. Such simple actions can be taken, happy and nicer actions to prevent measures like so.
- It shows the after effect really well. It shows the parents suffering SO well. The bases of this TV show were the tapes. When people commit suicide, members of the family or friends are left with a note. This show/book changed that, it answered those questions, “why did she do it” “she was so pretty, why did she do it” “so young, why?”. It also showed how little parents know about there kids. Its an important show for parents too because it displays how Hannah’s or Clay’s parents were so clueless. Even Courtney’s or Jessica’s parents. Talking about the difficult stuff is much better than waiting for your child to come to you, possibly when its too late.
- It shows aspects like PTSD, substance abuse, depression. And it shows how its hard for teenagers to find support without feeling the embarrassment of people finding out like friends or family.
- THE RANGE OF POC!!! I thought this was so important. It showed how simple it was to create a cast of different races!!! When i read the book I imagined Courtney totally different. I imagined a blonde, Caucasian girl. So i was V happy when i saw the range of different races in the cast.
- It was a good show. It does have definite trigger scenes, but thats what those scenes are and I’m happy they did not shy away from them.
Give it a try, but remember to be careful when watching it. It does give a disclaimer before an episode that might be a trigger warning. But may careful.
Much love: Amer
A good motto for life, I feel. Kindness is defined as a “quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. In times like this, kindness can farther than anything. Sometimes kindness can come from common sense or going out of the way. With dark times around, kindness is the best solution.
Be kind, ya’ll!
I consider myself a pretty kind person, sometimes I can get upset but I tend to check myself afterwards. Think “why is this negative thought is here?” “Why is it important to think that?” We need to remember we aren’t perfect, so these thoughts are normal. It’s like this inner Regina George trying to take over, but the thought we have after, the Cady Heron, making sure we check ourselves and stay out of the burn book (MAJOR mean girl ref, didn’t even like the movie that much, but SOOO relevant)
I hope you insert some kindness this week!!
Much love: Amer