Synopsis : Phoebe is on date with a fancy non english speaking guy. Monica tags along for the translator. Ross and Rachel have a massive fight– does not end well (dun dun dunnnn). Joey and Chandler hit on the Xerox copy girl.
This post will have lessons and my opinion on what i think what a “break is”
Lesson #1: Open minds allow for deeper understanding. This is prominent for Ross. Ross takes his job very seriously, in fact, Ross and Rachel’s first date was at the museum where Ross works!!!! Having equal understanding between each other where work is just as important, if not more, than a relationship is extremely important for an healthy relationship. Ross lacks that; which, leads to the infamous “we were on a break scene”
Lesson #2: DON’T HOOK UP WITH SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY BREAKING UP WITH PREVIOUS SIGNIFICANT OTHER. In a relationship myself, breaks have really helped us. I feel they allow a broader and clearer perspective. It was not my first thought to bang someone else, and I’m sure my significant other did not want to either. Ross went to the bar and hooked up. Rachel stayed home and waited for Ross. The important part about Rachel here is: Rachel can have anyone over and Ross shouldn’t be upset. When there isn’t anything going on, don’t be jealous because it ruins and tarnishes everything. Rachel has told Ross multiple times that there isn’t anything going on between her and Mark, so Ross needs to grow emotionally and accept that. Don’t let your “crazy paranoid freaking out about your ex (who was a lesbian therefore has no control over not loving Ross anymore) ruin your present and future relationship”
Lesson #3: Don’t lie. Be honest. Ross runs around in the next episode “The one with the morning after” trying to hide his trail. I can assure you lying and covering up is not healthy. If you would want to be with the person honesty is the best policy, also if you are lying about something than you know something is wrong. Adjust your perspective and talk it out.
After years and years of watching FRIENDS, I can confidently say I agree with Rachel. The break was right and Ross had no right or sense to hook up with someone the same day. He does not at all get away it by “being on a break” and I count it as cheating.
Talk it out, don’t run away. Don’t let jealously ruin something so fricken special. And DO NOT SLEEP WITH SOMEONE RIGHT AFTER BREAKING UP WITH SOMEONE.
Thats all folks!
Much love: Amer