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The One with the Kips

Synopsis: Monica and Chandler want to be a “real couple”, so they decide to go to Denver for a weekend getaway; however, they do have a lover’s quarrel.  Joey finds about their secret relationship. Ross finally gets in touch with Emily, but she proposes a proposition that is difficult for the entire group- Ross and Rachel specifically. Not a lot happens with Pheobe in this episode. She does get upset at Rachel because Rachel said Pheobe would be the first one out of the group. 

The Kip is this guy that Monica used to date, but they broke up and it was so bad. Everyone promised to keep in touch with Kip, but no one did and he got lifted out.

It always makes me laugh that I write each character’s actions and how they resonate with me because I know it is a TV show, but I love discussing aspects about it. The characters have become so important to me over the years and I have been enjoying sharing my thoughts and opinions. 

Lesson #1

I think this is the first time I actually felt bad for Ross but even then I don’t fully feel bad for him I still feel bad. He messed up by saying the wrong name then decided to go on his honeymoon with the person he named at the alter (also, it was his EX-GIRLFRIEND) (WHO SET THEM UP, BUT BEFORE THAT ROSS STILL WAS NOT OVER RACHEL). However, the poor guy is in such a rock and a hard place between deciding who to pick: his wife or his best friend/childhood friend/ex-girlfriend. As a social worker, I always try and see a situation from the persons POV. So for Ross, understanding his situation helps someone, like his friends, support and love him.  Instead of focusing on his past mistakes, which is what Joey said: “you got married too early.” It tends to be easier on the person who is the “victim” to understand and listen rather than blame and share advice that is not helpful.

 

Lesson #2:

This one is about Emily. I feel her actions and feelings were totally justified. I would not trust my husband with the person’s name he said at our wedding or the one he was boarding a plane with to go on the honeymoon! Also, I would like to applaud Emily pre-wedding ceremony because she was totally fine with Ross and Rachel being friends. When Ross is confused about inviting Rachel to the wedding; Emily was super supportive and said: “Yes, I love Rachel.”  The lesson here is, don’t be defensive, but rather own up to your mistakes and acknowledge the person’s feeling, give them room to work on their feelings, and re-adjusting. Also, for Emily, moving to the States from London is a huge culture shock, so with the added stress and paranoia, she could be feeling more anxiety over the Ross/Rachel situation.

Sidenote: This whole Ross/Rachel drama happened because the actor who played Emily was expecting a child!! So, they had to squeeze her out in a drama shaken way.

So sorry for the delay of posts. I started school this fall and it is SOOOOOOOOOOO difficult to keep up.

 

Much love: Amer

 

 

 

 

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The One with the Embryo’s

Synopsis: Phoebe is preparing to be a surrogate for her half-brother and wife, Frank and Alice. The rest of the gang have a “who knows each other better” contest with the bet of apartment changing and bird removing. 

I have decided to share more than just “lessons”. I have kinda already started doing that, but I just wanted to openly state it.

Lesson #1:  Another cute thing about this series is how they use different means of family making lol.

Phoebe is a surrogate, Monica and Chandler adopt, and Rachel becomes a single mom. I love how they don’t use the basic “get married and have sex and WAMBAM kid”. Even though Monica and Chandler were married they had to adopt– while displaying how difficult and confusing adoption process is.  The lesson here is; which i feel more Millennials are more intrigued by- is there are several options when it comes to making a family and it does not always involve sperm and egg. It can be adoption of any race, any age. It can be surrogacy, and it can be fur babies. I always tell my SO that our house is going to have several different animals and like 2 kids.

Fun fact about Pheebs getting pregnant is because she was in real life so they incorporated in the most Phoebe-esk way possible. 

Lesson 2: Once again, not so much of a lesson but a thought process. It warms my heart how Joey and Chandler know Monica and Rachel so well. Especially because they all end up together.

(In my universe, Rachel and Joey end up together. Screw Ross)

Great relationships are formed from a deep connection and in this case it was friendship that help built 2 strong relationships. Obviously, not all relationships need to be built from friendship. I just found that in these two cases it was presented very well. This group of friends know each other so well because of how much they hang out– so hangout with your friends !!! I only have a few and I do not see them often, but i do talk to them pretty often, so i know them pretty well. I wouldn’t be able to answer the questions like these guys did, but a few questions i probably could.

That’s all folks!

 

Much love: Amer

 

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The One with Joey’s bag// The One with the Ballroom Dancing

Synopsis of TOWJB: In this episode, Pheebs has to handle a death in the family; which, leads to her meet her father is. Monica and Chandler have a little bump in there relationship because Monica sucks at giving massages. Joey gets an interesting “fashionable” piece from Rachel.

Lesson #1: Not so much of a lesson but an understanding of Pheebs. She is my favourite character next to Chandler because of how hard her life growing up was, but resilient she had been. When she met her father whilst at her grandmothers funeral it was difficult for me to watch. Such a sad and heart breaking moment portrayed on a comedic show just shows the different levels “Friends” has. This only became aware to me as i watched the series so much and i began to notice the struggles through out the world like in foster cares, homelessness, and suicides. I do wish we could have gotten some kind of closure with Pheebs troubled life. Her birth mother, her father, her sister and half brother. So many family members were not acknowledged past like season 7? or 8? None of them were there for her wedding; which, really tweeked me. Sorry I know this isn’t so much a lesson but just a thought i had on this part of the episode.

Lesson 2: I feel like i have said this before, but HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY. For monica and chandler—> honesty wasn’t used mostly for comedic purposes. The lesson here is not gigantic but ya’ll be honest with your SO as that is the best way to gain insight with each other rather than bottling things up. Try to speak in “i feel” sentences rather than blaming, yelling or whatever. For example, ” I feel you get annoyed when i talk about (insert topic) and I would like more patience”. Lol i ain’t no counselor, but that seems like a better route than yelling. To be honest, I need to work on this. I always start yelling instead of listening to how my SO feels.

Lesson 3: The bag. The purse. The UNISEX purse. Why are these given to women only? Boys always put stuff in our purses… why can’t they have one? Joey perfectly explains how useful the purse is for him and Chandler and Ross make fun of him. Once again, it was for comedic purposes. However, in the eyes of me, a person who has seen this series a bajillion times I feel the purse should be allowed!!! LET THE POOR FELLOW CARRY HIS SANDWICH AND MONEY IN PEACE!

 

Synopsis of TOWTBRD: In this episode, Joey helps Mr. Treeger practice ballroom dancing so Rachel and Monica don’t get evicted. Ross and Chandler try to quit the gym. Phoebe wants to date a massage client but it is against her oath and her company’s policy. 

Lesson #1: Joey stands up for Rachel, but it “backfires” as Mr.Treger threatens to evict Rachel and Monica. Mr.Treger compromises by asking if Joey can help him practice ballroom dancing with him. For the sake of his friends, he does!!!!! SO SWEET. The amount of times Joey has had his friends back always melts my heart. He is characterized has “a player” “a foodie” “a little dumb” BUT no one notices how effing sweet he is. Even though Monica and Rachel make fun of him— Monica says “How goes the dancing? Gay yet?”. WHY DOES JOEY HAVE TO BE GAY TO BE A DANCER. ugh. Lesson here is don’t stereotype basic activities— especially now because ANYONE CAN DO ANYTHING THAT MAKES THERE HEART HAPPY. And in Joey’s case, it was defending his friends from being EVICTED.

Lesson #2: WHY WHY WHY WHY DOES THE GYM AND BANK USE “FEMALES” TO ENTICE MALE CUSTOMERS TO STAY. Even when i watched the series for the first time i remember it annoying me. Ross and Chandler can’t quit the gym nor cancel there the bank accounts because the employees have “sexy” or “cute” women to force men to stay. LIKE WHY. Once again, i get it comedddddyyyyyyy. As a consistent Friends fan, this episode, especially this part, annoys me so much.

 

SORRY FOR THE SUPER DELAY IN POSTS. I have been in a weird funk, but i am back and “better than evaaaaa” 

Much love: Amer

 

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The One Without the Ski Trip

Synopsis: The gang is trying to adjust to Rachel and Ross breaking up. Awkwardness is placed when the rest of the gang has to choose who to hang out with– Ross or Rachel. 

The reason why I chose this episode is to try and explain why I am not the biggest fan of Ross. During this episode, Rachel asks the gang to attend a fashion show but they all say no because they have plans with Ross, but they makes plans for a different day. However, when they tell Ross he throws a fit and continues to throw a fit to his ex-wife on an important day for her about everyone ditching him. Ross is the saddest and most irrational character on this series.

He can’t accept Rachel’s success at her new job, he brings his worries and fears from a relationship that ended because of sexual differences not because they “fell out of love” or something, and he does not take the blame for actions he took when they took a break.

Lesson #1: When a couple breaks up and its in between a group, DON’T INVOLVE FRIENDS. It’s so apparent how much the rest of the gang suffers because of the pettiness and anger between Ross and Rachel. It’s hard enough on the group having to adjust to the separation, but involving friends just makes it like a war. I had a similar experience with two friends where it became impossibly hard to decide what to say to each friend and who to support. It took a strain on my own relationship and my other friends so the lesson I learnt is when a couple breaks up try your best not to get involved.

Lesson #2: Don’t be petty. I find that life is so short and it can be taken away at any time so why bother being petty? How does that help anyone… all it does is cloud your judgement, positivity, and attitude. Don’t create a life where you want to look back and say “why was I so upset?”. You could rather say “I am so happy I let that go…”

Being petty is something I used to do all the time. I would get mad at people and drop them like a fly, choose not to be there friend because of something someone said. I lost so many friendships and memories because of how I was. Thankfully, I aged and gained some insight, so now when i have chance to be petty I go the other way. I try and think of how that person feels, maybe why they are acting this way, and how I could approach it differently

 

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One hundred and fifty years old

Happy birthday Canada!

Thank you for being the home to so many different races, religions, customs, languages, and food. I am so grateful I was able to grow up in a country that allowed me to attend education past grade 8, did not require to do hard labour in a corn field, or do house chores and prepare to be a wife.

This was the life of my parents. They had to talk several miles to attend school, no longer be able to attend pass grades 8 or 10, or learn how to make all kinds of food at a young age.

On this day especially I like to remind myself how lucky and fortunate my brother and I were raised in a country where multiculturalism is the key to our country. Where kindness is the running joke of our country. Where there’s endless amounts of poutine.

However, I owe some time of remembrance and recognition to the individuals who birthed this land. Gave this land grass, crops, life, and more than we could ever say. The Aboriginal population have been on “Canada” for longer than 150 years and so it goes to say we would not be here without them.

Take sometime to remember what the Aboriginal population has been through and still is going through. Canada, I love you and I cannot wait to see how you spread that love all around with acceptance, recognition, and understanding.

Much love: Amer

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“we were on a BREAK”

Synopsis : Phoebe is on date with a fancy non english speaking guy. Monica tags along for the translator. Ross and Rachel have a massive fight– does not end well (dun dun dunnnn). Joey and Chandler hit on the Xerox copy girl.

This post will have lessons and my opinion on what i think what a “break is”

Lesson #1: Open minds allow for deeper understanding.    This is prominent for Ross. Ross takes his job very seriously, in fact, Ross and Rachel’s first date was at the museum where Ross works!!!! Having equal understanding between each other where work is just as important, if not more, than a relationship is extremely important for an healthy relationship. Ross lacks that; which, leads to the infamous “we were on a break scene”

Lesson #2: DON’T HOOK UP WITH SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY BREAKING UP WITH PREVIOUS SIGNIFICANT OTHER. In a relationship myself, breaks have really helped us. I feel they allow a broader and clearer perspective. It was not my first thought to bang someone else, and I’m sure my significant other did not want to either. Ross went to the bar and hooked up. Rachel stayed home and waited for Ross. The important part about Rachel here is: Rachel can have anyone over and Ross shouldn’t be upset. When there isn’t anything going on, don’t be jealous because it ruins and tarnishes everything. Rachel has told Ross multiple times that there isn’t anything going on between her and Mark, so Ross needs to grow emotionally and accept that. Don’t let your “crazy paranoid freaking out about your ex (who was a lesbian therefore has no control over not loving Ross anymore) ruin your present and future relationship”

Lesson #3: Don’t lie. Be honest. Ross runs around in the next episode “The one with the morning after” trying to hide his trail. I can assure you lying and covering up is not healthy. If you would want to be with the person honesty is the best policy, also if you are lying about something than you know something is wrong. Adjust your perspective and talk it out.

My opinion:

After years and years of watching FRIENDS, I can confidently say I agree with Rachel. The break was right and Ross had no right or sense to hook up with someone the same day. He does not at all get away it by “being on a break” and I count it as cheating.

Talk it out, don’t run away. Don’t let jealously ruin something so fricken special. And DO NOT SLEEP WITH SOMEONE RIGHT AFTER BREAKING UP WITH SOMEONE.

Thats all folks!

Much love: Amer

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The lesbian wedding

Season 2, Episode 11

Synopsis: Rachel finds out her mother might be leaving her father. Phoebe’s client passes away on her massage table and her spirit doesn’t want to leave. Ross’s ex wife is getting married. Joey is on his first TV show! Chandler is chilling.

Lesson #1: Don’t knock what you don’t believe. Something as interesting as a spirit entering someone’s body may also be confusing to some, but that does not mean you should take away that belief. Joey was so understanding to Phoebe when she was going through this “event”. For me, it was warming to see a different kind of situation take place on a TV show. With it being such a “funny” and “unknown” topic, it was nice seeing how they portrayed it. They did not make Phoebe seem “crazy”, but something apart of her personality, something that makes Phoebe Pheebs.

Lesson #2: It is easier to live life being happy for someone rather than bitter. Ross is upset and decides not to attend his ex wife and mother to his child wedding to her partner, Susan Bunch. “They already live together, why do they need to get married?” is a line from Ross, and sadly, what a lot of individuals think when it comes to gay marriage. The running joke through out the show is Ross likes to get married. So, he knows exactly why people want to get married. To celebrate their love with there families and friends, to officially honour there relationship though there means of religion, for tax reasons! Theres a trillion reasons why marriage is important for a couple, no matter the type of couple. At the end, Ross finally comes around because him and Susan agree that the wedding is for themselves and not anyone. Ross walks Carol down the isle because Carol’s parents don’t want to come due to who Carol is marrying. Which ties in my first sentence. Living life is easier by being happy for someone rather than bitter. It is easier to walk your daughter down the isle and be happy for her than miss out on her big day because of some belief in a book.

Thats all for today, folks!!

Much love.

Amer